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AA slogans in my mothering

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I have spent years in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous. I've never been drunk in my life, but I've abused food in the way others abuse alcohol and had found a way to live sanely through  GSA , a group that directly applies AA principles to food issues. When there were no GSA meetings in my area, for years I attended AA meetings, and studied their literature in depth throughout my recovery. I'm no longer a member of GSA because I was supernaturally healed - any AA/GSA member will tell you that recovery is a life long process, you are never 'healed', and that is true in the natural; but one day, I was set free and I knew it and I have never looked back. But that's a story for another day. What I want to share is how what I learned from AA applies directly to my mothering, and is keeping me sane. Those slogans are  lifesavers . You may want to memorise some of them... One Day At A Time. I had a bracelet made with this slogan on. I tend to live in the fut

Baby at 2 months: our new normal

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I write this with my baby resting on my chest, skin-to-skin, towards the end of an evening filled with pained crying - she's got colic, although it's been improving very much and crying has become a fairly rare event. It strikes me that this is my new normal... life has truly changed. Sofa time I'm convinced I've spent more time on the sofa in the past two months than in the entire time we've owned it before baby. The first few weeks I literally fed her all day, all the time, with breaks of up to (!) 15 minutes. She was  hungry!  and I was sore.  At night she'd sleep fairly well, three wakings to feed, which is still her pattern. But as the initial dust settles, we seem to have found a rhythm together, and days are beginning to be somewhat predictable. Not that I expect that to be in any way permanent! But right now, it's lovely. This is how a typical, new-normal day looks now. At  night , babe wakes around 2, 4, and 6am so I have a good chunk of